As I sit here, I evaluate my life and how I got to where I am mentally, spiritualy and emotionally. There have been so many experiences that I had to learn from and nothing came with instructions. I have made quite a few mistakes in life and I don’t regret anything; my mistakes are what give my growth the spunk to shine. I am always reaching for better in life, in every area. I used to float through life like I was innocent and everybody else was to blame for my misfortunes. I didn’t want to face the facts of my life and admit that everything negative I was going through was being created directly by me.
I had to sit and think about what truly made a difference in my life as I gained mental and spiritual freedom from the oppression I was causing; I got the momentum to push hard and do the right thing once I embraced my relationship with my flaws. Accepting the fact that my flaws are always present BUT they are not the dominating factor for the duration of my life. I had to learn to bond with my flaws so I could eject them from my spirit. Might sound crazy but there’s no way to even know what to remove from your life if you can’t recognize what’s actually unhealthy.
I am connected to the things that make my universe unique to me; when reality hits, that overpowering energy can’t be ignored. I have a great relationship with my flaws, we both understand that everything isn’t for everybody so with respect and understanding, I never have a problem parting ways with my flaws but I never forget that the same flaws labeled as “bad” are the real reason I’m stronger, wiser and more enriched in my soul.
Without my flaws, how would I know my areas of strength? Without my flaws, how would I be able to see myself in a better light once I realized the flaw and decided to get rid of it? I get criticized all the time, sometimes by people who should love and respect me unconditionally, and accused of not being perfect. I will never claim to be perfect; I can’t help that I’ve done things and I know quite a few techniques to assist others on their spiritual walk. I have people say things that attack my integrity and character. I get individuals question my authentic motive in ANY situation. I hear all the negative from others about me but I stay balanced because I know I accept my flaws and work on them each day. Nobody else can look at my life and tell me what it really should be like. To outsiders, your life might look a certain way and they feel like they can “fix” you but in the bigger picture (the ONLY thing that truly mattes), the journey you’re traveling can only be traveled by you. When you have other human beings staring at your life and analyzing what THEY feel is best for you, you can sometimes forget that you have a brain and you are smart enough to handle things you need to handle in order to grow. Am I above being criticized? Of course not but I am not open to allow others to “attempt” to control my every move when they have their own moves they should be focused on making.
How can someone who hasn’t lived your life, moment by moment, know exactly how you should act? People give advice based on what they know (at least that’s the way it should go) and what THEY know is not always what YOU are. There’s a difference and people don’t always stop to evaluate the fact that others can’t control you, no matter how bad they want to. If they see flaws according to what they feel is right but it doesn’t match what YOUR reality is based on YOU living your life everyday, you definitely need to keep it moving and do what you KNOW is right in your heart. Everyone won’t understand or even like things you do or say but you don’t live for another human beings validation. Face your flaws YOUR way. We are all different so things will affect each individual in a different way. It’s not fair to allow someone else who is fighting their own reality to try and distort yours.
I know you hate admitting that something you’ve done for years is actually not a good thing to practice but you have to uplift that flaw and then escort it right out the front door of your life. I give advice to others because I understand, not because I’m perfect. The reason I CAN give advice is because I DO embrace my flaws and I have every right to encourage others as they seek guidance and support on their journey. Do I know everything since I keep speaking about all the things I’ve learned and all the growth I have done? Not at all! I am simply an individual who understands that flaws make all of us human and nobody can expect you to be anything else.
Make your flaws your motivation and make sure you embrace the darkest parts so others have no room to speak against you as you continue to strive towards your success but most of all so you can understand and KNOW what the beauty of your spirit really means.
Thank you all so much for reading. I believe in being transparent and sharing my thoughts about what truly makes all of us one. We are different beings and the sooner we learn to respect that and allow others to live their life THEIR way, we will have more balance in the universe and within our personal space. Make sure you register on this site so you can tell me how you feel about this topic or you can email me questions, comments, concerns or blog topics at LoveLessons@LezFemmeMentality.com; I look forward to hearing from you.