What’s the most painful thing you have ever experienced connected with another human being? What do you hold as a value for another person’s life? We are all responsible for how we treat one another, nobody gets a pass to be disrespectful or intentionally cause pain towards someone else.
I have seen many things in my life and it all comes back to one thing; we are all responsible for our behavior when dealing with others. You can’t expect to walk around creating chaos in the personal space of those around you and expect nothing negative to happen in your life. Wipe the confused look off your face because you are the only one who can fix your imperfections that affect another individual.
There’s no need in being confused about your “sudden-string-of-bad-luck” when you have set the tone for disaster with your actions. You can’t expect to live in a world where you don’t display integrity yet you get to stand there waiting patiently for something miraculous to appear that you didn’t rightfully earn.
Relationships can range from being intimate to being vaguely acquainted. Sometimes the mere thought of facing another human being can be confusing and hard to process but it’s a part of life. When you open your eyes each day you are given the freedom to do what you want. You aren’t under a microscope to analyze every breath or move you make; the world can’t truly see what you’re about until you bring the behavior to the table for everyone around to observe. Do you always treat others with respect, even when no one is watching? Do you make selfish choices; only concerned with how things affect your life directly?
If you can’t be proud of everything you do when it involves others, you shouldn’t do it. It’s that simple. Forget what others say, you’re responsible for your actions. It doesn’t matter what reasons you try to justify your actions with, wrong is wrong at the end of the day. Don’t spend time trying to go around the truth, let the truth fall on the floor and don’t spend extra time moving it to fit your comfort level. Regardless of what you want to do, there’s an obligation to always do what is right. These are not my rules, I’m just letting you know what I’ve found to be true through personal experiences and watching the exact same things happens in the lives of others.
A relationship has no value without honest communication and it starts with a thought, your thoughts to proceed with pure intentions or do something that is not honorable. If you are fine with knowing things you have done towards others are wrong and might cause grief, who am I to stop you or even expect you to read further? This is your life and whatever results you are satisfied with are your sole responsibility. Choose wisely and make all efforts to do the right thing, whether someone is watching over your shoulder or you’re sitting in your car alone. Make all your relationships and connections with others count in the column of ‘INTEGRITY’.
We celebrate the life of actor Paul Walker (rest in peace), and dedicate this week’s blog to the person most notably identified as the fifth place contestant who told the judges of Fox’s X Factor show, “…hard work gets a seat!” 2012 Championship winner of Professional Women’s football and native of Chicago, Illinois, Lorie Moore is the younger of two children. She has a brother who is ten years her senior, and her biological parents still live in Illinois. What the world doesn’t know about the football jersey wearing singer is she is no stranger to the entertainment industry. Moore moved to California to pursue her dreams, not to sing, but to become a Mogul! Yes y’all, a mogul. As CeeLO Green sang it, “…ain’t that some shit?” Moore is my kind of leader. Go for goal or leave it alone resonated throughout the interview.
Regarding her experience with X Factor, Lorie says, “I did the show for visibility”, and only at the behest of Tisha Campbell-Martin.
I mean, there’s only so much rejection one soul can take, but then again maybe not. Lorie auditioned for American Idol in 2006. She auditioned for The Voice in 2009 and again in 2010. But it was her September 2013 audition singing Whitney Houston’s rendition of “I Have Nothing” that earned her a spot on Fox’s X Factor show.
Moore says, “The king of mean” (Simon Cowell) gave her a “Wow” and a “yes”. As far as she is concerned, Moore went home a winner, because she never quit. She gave 100%. Regarding her famous speech, “…Hard work gets a seat!” Moore says, “I went home that night fighting, and I figured, if I’m going home, “ahma say ma peace…” I guess that’s all we need to say about that y’all.
A Little History
Prior to her brief moment in mainstream media, Moore worked closely with Tisha Campbell-Martin. According to Moore, she assisted in organizing Martin’s band. Moore sang background, and opened shows for Martin. Did you know Moore was once signed to an “all-girl group” between 1999/2000? Unfortunately, the group quickly dismantled as a result of “girl group issues” (i.e., marriage/pregnancy). The label quickly brushed the group aside in search of the next hit girl group. As a result, Moore went solo, and eventually connected with Kwame, which influenced her move to LA, hoping to gain access to more opportunities. Moore did make some connections. She connected with Kevin Shine, who encouraged her to write. She’s written songs for Vivian Green, Public Announcement, and others, but she has yet to witness the fruits of her labor in the writing industry.
Moore continues to try on various aspects of the industry while dealing with the “realities of needing to pay bills…” Moore says, “Trying to pursue dreams and pay bills is tiresome and not for the faint of heart.” Moore manages to access major game changers who show respect for her talents. Her first job in California with Diva Limousine Company placed her in a position to enhance her knowledge of the industry. She has appeared with the RZA (Wu-Tang) on the Late Show as well as worked on Various RZA projects including background vocals on “White Dress” by Kanye West. In 2012 she debuted in “The Color Purple” as Doris The Church Lady. She’s spent some time on the The Foxxhole Sirius Radio station as well. But Moore says something was missing; “I’ve always been the help.” Something had to change.
Me & My Future
Moore is preparing to release a new album, and over the Thanksgiving holiday “The Slingers” was released, which boasts of Moore’s contribution “Found a Way“. Moore says, “I feel good about that…” At the end of the day, Moore wants people to remember “I will have lived” I’m setting an example.” ”I plan to be a philanthropist and contribute to this world on a global level. If you not having a good time, you wasting your time.” Moore aspires to “…Crossing boundaries without changing” who you are. She continues, “I let myself be. I’m giving positive energy. What you do with that energy is up to you. Even if it’s not reciprocated, giving positive energy is what I push. I can give you my wisdom; I give what I have.”
“…Things you go through can really dim your light. I appreciate learning from even the negative stuff. No regrets, I continue to move as a business, and become what I’m destined to become, a mogul, not a one trick pony” (doing the same song over and over again).
Moore admits, “A part of my problem, I don’t stick with one thing.” She refers to her industry behavior as “creative ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder). Moore says, “I’m constantly pressured to develop, create a brand.” When it comes to her look/brand, Moore identifies as a chameleon. She says:
“I will not allow myself to be put in a box. I Will not allow anybody to bully me into doing what they think I should do. I never really cared about fame, but fame comes with responsibility. I have to consider the songs I’m putting out. Don’t put me in no 6” heels. Don’t nobody talk about this pain. I can walk in them.”
And Your Love Life Ms. Moore?
“It’s so complicated…” I just don’t know anybody that can deal with all this.” I’m single. That’s where I have to be right now. Never been married, always very focused on me. Part of me wants to date within the industry. I’m apprehensive about dating outside the industry, because people don’t know how to deal with the nature of your business. I’m just laying low right now.”
What About the Children?!
A year ago I had the baby itch. I’ve been avoiding because I want the dream to happen so fast. That part is slipping away, but I want to raise my child in the right way. It’s selfish to bring a child in while pursuing my dream. It’s a dimming light. I want a child. I don’t know, I have to see. Hard work never quits.
But what about the football?
Football is NOT her first passion. For Moore, Sports is “addictive…” As a matter of fact, she’s between teams right now, waiting to see if she is picked for either Los Angeles Amazons or the San Diego Surge. She’s in the middle of making big decisions about playing all together. I’m not telling which team is her first choice. She wants to play one more season, but her Publicist is totally against it. Her response, “Keep me on the red carpet and I’ll stop playing”. Either way, Moore says, “In 30 days I have to make that decision” to play football or pursue music. Moore believes in order to give the music business a fair chance, she must choose between the two professions. But, she hasn’t quite yet retired…
“When I’m not busy I don’t feel like I’m working. If I’m not working, I don’t know what I’m here for.” ”… I only do things that are challenging.” That is why Moore pledged Delta in college.
Moore’s current focus is getting incorporated, and learning the business. If you want more of Moore, go to her Facebook page and don’t forget to hit the LIKE BUTTON. Ms. Moore wants the world to know she’s not done just yet. She’s has to write some songs and sign some acts. ”I AM” Street Revolutionist, bringing you all things entertainment. Please log in and leave your comments. Just be sure to answer one question. ”Are you not entertained?!”
This Sunday’s blog goes out to all the women who date or are in a relationship with a stud/aggressive/butch/tomboy lesbian who is totally against penetration and the like. As lesbians, we comprehend what the limits are when it comes to our lover, but could that also mean limiting her arousal and fantasies as well as yours?
I know what you are thinking! Studs do what they please with their bodies, just like the rest of us. However, there are some of us who are very unfortunate in knowing that we can’t reach that euphoric moment when we are the ones giving the penetration to our stud lover. Their demeanor doesn’t allow such a thing or much less, even the thought! How can we, as lesbians, create a space in time where our lovers become comfortable enough to trust us with their bodies? There is such a place for some, but as some of you are already convinced, some women are just a part of he old touch-me-not category. And oh, how I hate to place our own sisters under such a title! But we must face facts at some point or another! Trying to understand what you require and what you wantin a relationship is most important. Women know what they want. What they keep is the main factor that will take shape eventually.
Once you’ve taken a moment to understand what it is that you need or require in a relationship sexually, it is time to take a closer look at your lady. Is she restrictive toward your gentle caresses in certain areas? Does she abruptly stop and ask you to leave the room or sleep in another area of the bed? Does she catch a quick temper when you touch certain areas? It is so very important to understand where they are. Understanding WHY may take some time. Lesbian women always carry some sort of disappointment or memory that keeps them alert when it comes to certain scenarios. If you wish to open her up, the best way to do that is to be her therapist. That’s right, you have to dig deep and cultivate deep down in the soils of her past. This woman has a past that effects her future. I’m a strong believer in the fact that women want to be touched and caressed. There is no doubt in my mind that no matter what she’s been through or how hurt she was, she carries a very heavy load and comfortability has a lot to do with you now that her body belongs to you in a sexual manner.
Studs have been known to be the dominant counterpart in every relationship. Sexually, they are looked at as the one who “wears the pants” and calls the shots. Contrary to that belief, there are plenty of studs who enjoy giving penetration and receiving it as well! They may not voice it because society has a way of making them feel as if things should bot go that way since they are the aggressors. Bullshit! Societal comprehension of such a thing is so broadly based that if you wanted to open your stud lover’s inhibitions, you may have to go at it completely alone.
Some people believe that if a lesbian woman likes penetration, she is considered to be bisexual or straight. But when did penetration become a hetero thing? Ok, ok, since forever, but I want you all to understand that lesbians have been testing the waters for many, many years! Who’s to say that penetration is only something a straight woman or lesbian femme could enjoy? It is odd to see a stud taking penetration because of the image we see them portray in our daily lives. Studs can refuse penetration as many times as they please, but keep in mind that some of them wouldn’t mind a nice night of that dildo pounding her pussy away. It’s all about her deepest, darkest desires that we push away because we ASSUME they are not down with the whole penetration business.
I will say, there are definitely some studs who have been traumatized by their upbringing. Some occurrence may have stricken the woman to the point where she does not wish t be touched in certain places. Have faith and patience with her as it may be something that can be worked out between the two of you! Talking things out always breaks the ice on the sexual front. Eventually , femmes want to put on a dildo and fuck. Curiosity drives them into a stage of experiment and depending on the comfort level, the stud may submit.
But what about the ego?
I must say that the ego in studs may be the one thing that stands between you and penetrations that are blissful to the giver. As a receiver, they deny, deny, deny! Their stance, reputation and ego may not allow such a thing to take place. But trust ladies, they crack eventually. I’m not saying they all do, but most women enjoy penetration whether it comes from their own fingers or their lover. The most important element here, is time. You must practice patience with her and eventually, that pussy is yours. I say it that way because they don’t trust many people to begin with. So, if they learn to trust you with their bodies, imagine the hold you have on them. With reputation and status in your hands, you a strong power to keep her. However, that trust is not to be toyed with! If you are certain that this pussy is indeed for you and you don’t care for any other pussy, take heed to these words. Otherwise, keep it mediocre and vanilla for the time being.
Whatever the case, talking it out and exchanging perspectives on the matter is imperative. Always give your all when it comes to lending an ear. Sex is supposed to be an enjoyable and trusting act between both parties. Go as slow as you can with these studs. If not, you can expect the same monotonous sex leaving little room for exploration!
I know what you are thinking, “Another awards show, how many do they have in a year?” Survey says, there is at least one every month, as far as music goes between all the different genres and artists. But outside of music, there are a lot more shows catered to honoring tremendous acting, sports and entertainment related achievements.
The American Music Awards were created to recognize the outstanding achievements made by American artists in the music industry. This award show was initially created in 1973 for ABC by Dick Clark to compete with the Grammys (who just recently left the station) In essence, it’s a little hard to compare based on the clout of nominations, the AMAs are chosen by the people and popular vote, whereas the Grammys are determined by not only a poll of public opinion but by music buyers and statistics.
Compared to most other Red Carpet shows, this one yielded the LEAST amount of well dressed individuals I have seen to date. When the red carpet is noted for how many fashion no-no’s as opposed to great fashion it is a little disheartening considering most of these people have appeared on other red carpets on their A-game. But never fear AS ALWAYS I have been able to pick out my favorites from the evening.
I do not like to focus on the negative and bringing down those who have made poor choices as the media and fashion police have already done that. Let’s start with my first favorite and according to a wide poll one of the worst outfits for this artist, Ciara.
I do not care what ANYBODY says Ciara made that J Mendel see through gown look impeccable. In conjunction with the cute short hairdo I think this was two thumbs up. Too much going on, I think she handled it well and didn’t overdo an already busy piece.
Next up, the infamous Kendall and Kylie Jenner. I remember seeing these young ladies growing up before my eyes on Keeping up with the Kardashians and they have truly grown into the fashionistas everybody knew they would be. Kylie donned a pair of Giambatista Valli black velvet trousers some Barbara Bui black ankle booties and a white Maiyet midriff top. Kendall wore a keepsake white mini skirt and matching top that she offset with a beautiful silver Dylanex necklace and Manolo Blahnik heels.
Miley Cyrus, as of late she has been exhibiting very poor fashion choices, especially in her little twerk performances but this time she nailed it with a very simple Versus Versace white pant suit and a simple black heel. Aside of performing with a cat and that bikini, nobody can say anything about you girl.
Last but not least, Miss. Nicole Richie in a beautiful white Emilio Pucci gown with a beautiful cutout, Casadei heels and a House of Harlow clutch, I don’t recall her always being simple and to the point but this is one that will go down in the books.
Overall, no major complaints, it is always nice to have more best dressed to choose from but these four alone gave me life and offset all the poor fashion choices. Check out some of the others from the red carpet. Also be on the lookout for the Soul Train Awards that air this Sunday, here’s hoping to see A LOT more better dressed celebrities, I know they have it in them.
We are all human beings who long for connections with other human beings. Whether it is the brush of a hand against your leg or kisses that say ‘I missed you and never want to let you go’, it’s a normal desire.
It gets deep when you add affection to any equation; it complicates things that might otherwise be in a calm state of existence. I see people connect on a regular basis but never embrace the fact that there is a growing bond they can’t deny or better yet, refuse to. Is it so horrible to talk to someone everyday and simply enjoy his or her breathing on the telephone? What’s wrong with going to the movies every other day or sleeping at your “friends” house because you were too tired to drive, for the 4th time this week? Wow, is it that obvious? Why yes it is. You are definitely in a relationship after you stated you weren’t ready for that. How in the world did you end up here and how do you get out of this accidental disaster?
A lot of people move so fast that they miss the reality of everything they do. They live in the moment but they forget that moment will change as the days and months roll on. The leaves will fall from the trees and ice will make the bridges slick causing several accidents at any given time. Nothing is permanent so it is never safe to make long-term decisions based on temporary emotions. If that’s hard to comprehend let me break it down even further; stop dancing with someone in the club and because they are cute or have a steady job you move in with them the following Monday. Talking to somebody for a week doesn’t mean you’re ready to share insurance or living space; everybody’s emotions run deeper than that. Once the initial goo-goo eyes clear up and your vision is clear, you realize that you don’t want the relationship you allowed yourself to be committed to.
How do you deal with the fact you’re not happy? How do you face each day knowing the person you were once happy to make the beneficiary of everything legal now disgusts you when they blink too fast? It’s time to go, right? WRONG! Most of you won’t move because you’re either extremely attached or tired of being single (which is selfish by the way but whatever you tell yourself is fine with me). Now I don’t have statistics to back my thoughts but based on personal observation, that’s the way it tends to go in relationships that are rushed without taking the proper time to grow.
When is holding on too long? How do you leave the stability of having that one person who will be there no matter what even though you don’t like them anymore? How do you gain your freedom to be alone and not yearn for something that’s not healthy for you? These are all questions that make sense to have, it’s just important that you truly find the answers so you can avoid causing more damage to someone else’s feelings and slowly demolishing your own. The only option you have when these ARE questions you contemplate is to be truly generous with your love and let things go so everyone involved can start living and finding what’s meant for their mental, emotional and spiritual journey. Always be honest and reality will work things out in the right direction going forward.
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