From White House to Nigger House – Really Google?

The days of bigotry and racism are far behind us. We live in a civilization that is open and loving. People of all races, sexual gender, religious beliefs and sexual preference are acknowledged and treated equally! Yes, America! Land of the free and the best place to live!

Who the hell am I kidding?

Society as we know it is as judgmental now as it was more than a century ago. Individuals are classified by their skin color, education class, sexual desires and anything else that can be placed in a category.

President Barak Obama has been the brunt of tasteless and ignorant jokes since presidency campaign. 225px-President_Barack_Obama

The newest attack comes from a search on google maps.

If you search Nigger King or Nigger House, it will direct you to the White House located in our Nation’s capital.

Google has put out an apology for the racial slur.

“Some inappropriate results are surfacing in Google Maps that should not be, and we apologize for any offense this may have caused. Our teams are working to fix the issue quickly,” said a Google spokesperson.

Google is attempting to fix the issue. “Google has pledged to give an update by May 27. Until then, Google Maps users can still report mistakes and inappropriate material from the app” (Brian Fung, 2015).

My question is how did Google miss this? Is someone not doing quality assurance on these apps?

Also who thought to try this search out in the first place?

It seems to me that America has so much growing up to do. It’s 2015 and I for one believe that we are taking several steps back.

President Obama is about to conclude his 2nd and final term. Get over yourselves.

Ladies Who Love Ladies : Sweet Heat Miami 2015

May 15th -18th, 2008 introduced the world to the amazing all lesbian weekend party that we have all come to know as Sweet Heat Miami. Founded by the infamous DJ Dimples, Sweet Heat Miami has welcomed anywhere from 5,000 – 8,000 women to the streets of South Beach for almost a decade. Without a doubt, Sweet Heat Miami is the most anticipated pride weekend for women of color year after year. In true DJ Dimples fashion; the events, shows, host, deejays and celebrity guest are extreme and over the top providing an eclectic and memorable experience.

As you can imagine I jumped at the chance of being a promotional and media sponsor for Sweet Heat Miami 2015. Although I am a Florida native, this would be my very first Sweet Heat Miami experience and I was super excited. I had heard so much about this breath taking weekend and I could not wait to party like it was 1999.

I was so enthusiastic, that I figured it would be a great idea to invite my good friend Temper to be my co-commentator for the entire weekend.

I wish I could say that my involvement was a pleasurable one. I wish that I could say I got a chance to enjoy myself, however that was not the case.

I have to admit, that I thought long and hard about writing this review. Although I am still a bit disturbed about how I was treated this weekend, I do commit to removing all emotions from this article and simply stating facts.

Let me start off by saying Loyalty Enterprise, LLC and all of its subsidiaries were participating as promotional sponsors for this weekend and I ensured that we promoted as agreed.


My journey began on November 23rd, 2014 when I originally signed the agreement to be a media sponsor. Following that, I sent an email on December 16th, 2014, January 19th, 2015 and February 5th, 2015 trying to reach someone regarding my media plans and what I would need to set up.


I had agreed that would do a full page feature of the weekend and that What the Fck Radio would broadcast live. As you can envision it was vital that we cleared up all details.

Finally I received an email on February 7th, 2015 inquiring as to what they could help me with. It was during that conversation that I confirmed the amount of press passes that I would need along with requesting approval for the flyers I was having made to promote our live broadcast. I felt that the conversation went well. That is until, April 3rd, 2015 when I visited the website and realized that my company logo was not listed as a media sponsor. I found that quite strange seeing how I had just spent that last 2 months promoting on all social media sites that myself and Temper would be covering the events.


Naturally, I sent an email regarding this and the response that I received was “We don’t have you down as a media sponsor, did you sign the media agreement “.

After staring at the screen for 15 minutes I replied by forwarding the signed agreement along with the email confirming they had received the agreement.

Honestly, that was the point when I should have backed out but I wanted to remain a woman of my word.
A few emails later we got it all squared away and I was provided the email address to the marketing liaison that I would be dealing with. It took 3 weeks and a really unpleasant phone call for me to finally get a response from this young lady. Once we conversed we created a plan of what events would be covered and what events I would broadcast live from.

As the date drew nearer I knew that it would be extremely difficult to get a response so I kept my questions to a minimum however I still needed to make sure that everything that was needed to make the weekend flawless was available. Well, that did not happen because once again, NO RESPONSE.

Fast forward to the actual weekend.

The first day was decent. I was able to capture some footage and interview one of the deejays from that night. It actually seemed like things were going to be ok.


Friday on the other hand started what turned out to be a downward spiral.
After driving around for 20 minutes trying to park for the Bae Watch pool party , I found myself standing in line for almost 45 minutes as we waited to board 2 elevators. This wouldn’t have been such a huge deal if it wasn’t for the fact that I was carrying very heavy recording equipment. Once I got upstairs to set up it turned out that the hotel had no Wi-Fi, or at least that’s what I was told. Seeing how What the Fck Radio is an internet radio show we cannot work without Wi-Fi. Unfortunately, the representative that was to be my contact was nowhere to be found at that point. WE COULD NOT BROADCAST!

After getting over that disappointment we decided to put all of our energy into preparing for the all black party later on that night. I arrived at the black party only to be told that I was not allowed in VIP. Pause! If I am supposed to have ALL access to the guest, host, deejays and performers why I am not allowed where they are? Who does not allow media in VIP? I was not asking for a bottle, I simply wanted to be granted the access that was promised to me. The ironic thing is that one of Temper’s fans saw her and walked us into VIP, no questions ask. Just that easy!

At this point I’m a bit annoyed. Nevertheless, I brushed it off and prepared for the next day.
Here we are back at the Viceroy hotel. This time things were a bit smoother and I brought my hot spot. We were able to broadcast live and we actually got to conduct a few dope interviews. I was becoming optimistic.


Now it’s time for the all-white party and Sweet Heat requested that I do a live stream during this event. No problem. I started texting the liaison around 9:00 pm asking if she would have everything ready for me to set up. Meaning outlet access, VIP access, along with access to interview DJ Dimples during the live stream. Midnight and still no reply. Finally I show up to the event only to be told that I had to park 5 blocks down.

You want me to walk 5 blocks, in 5 inch heels, carrying recording and broadcasting equipment? This was when I realized that Sweet Heat Miami had absolutely no respect for me as one of their media sponsors. I was done! That was my last event!

Although I did not attend anymore events I continued to promote their events via social media because at the end of the day I was still a promotional sponsor.

All of the confusion regarding this weekend could have been avoided if the lines of communication was kept open since December. There were several attempts made to ensure that my coverage of the weekend was phenomenal. Til this day, I’m still not listed as a media sponsor anywhere. There was never a point during any events where Sweet Heat announced that there was a live broadcast going on or that I was covering the weekend. I was not acknowledged at all.


Now, I take my hat off to DJ Dimples because I can only imagine what goes into planning such a massive event and I’m not sure if she even knew what was going on behind the scenes. What I will say is that someone dropped the ball.

There were several patrons that took to social media to announce how displeased they were with the way several events were handled.

There was even a few videos put up by the creator of DVMN Pigeon clothing expressing how irate she was with how she was treated.

Granted there are several thousand women that simply had a great time but this blogger will never step foot at a Sweet Heat Miami event again.

Photo Credit : 3K9Visions & Temper

Living Out My Destiny: Truth Serum – Lesson Learned- Life Lived – Closed Chapter

Forgiveness is where I left you all last week.

Forgive: verb for•give \fər-ˈgiv, fȯr-\
: To stop feeling anger toward (someone who has done something wrong): to stop blaming (someone)

: To stop feeling anger about (something): to forgive someone for (something wrong)

: To stop requiring payment of (money that is owed)

The hardest part of mastering the art of forgiveness for me was understanding that I needed to forgive myself.

Fast forward; 2015.

Today I find myself in a place that I have NEVER been before! Exultant! I finally understood that my happiness is truly my responsibility. Yes ladies, after all of the blood, sweat, tears, questions and moments of self-hatred I finally appreciate and except my purpose. I had to endure this journey in order to find the most important person in my life; myself.

I have been single for over a year now and ladies I love dating myself. I know that when I finally do encounter the person that is divinely made for me that our connection will be a pure reflection of GOD. See ladies the point is; I am complete on my own and therefor I do not need another person to complete or validate me. I simply seek enhancements. Due to this, if the relationship ends I will still be whole.

Now please understand that my journey is not over. I still have moments of uncertainty but I now know where and how to find the answers.

If you cannot enjoy your presence please do not expect anyone else to enjoy it!

I hope this series and intimidate moment with me has helped you this month!

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Until we meet again NOODLES … Live . Love, Laugh!

Gourmet Kitchen with a side of Aarum Hurse

A3Born and raised in Detroit, Aarum Kisha Anita Hurse aka LesBinTheKitchen, has spent her entire life around food.

Like most African American households the kitchen is a meeting place.

Aarum watched and was taught by the best – her Great-Great Grandmother, Grandmother, Mother and Aunts. “As a kid I loved how the neighbors would just show up when they smelled the food. It was like having extra family members! My passion for food started then.”

Fast forward a few years and 40+ recipes later and you have Culinary Cool- Everyday Food. This book is to help you to find your own personal flavor profile. It’s about taking the simple foods we eat everyday and thinking outside of the box. If you can’t find one of the ingredients used in the book, simply adjust the recipe to your own flavor profile!
It’s all about the journey not the destination.

Cooking should be quick and fun!

Tasty words by a cultivating individual. Now ladies you know that I love to eat so I was more than excited about this interview. Time to explore LesBinTheKitchen …

First Lady Truth: Most culinary professional view food as a way of life.I often hear that food is the way to a man / woman’s heart. What does food represent to you?

Aarum: Well first I’m not a culinary professional, this is just a hobby turned into a passion.
Food for me represents fun and yes it taste great. For me it’s about getting in the kitchen and just having fun after a long day of work. I just like to relax and not think and that’s what food does for me.

First Lady Truth: When did you finally accept your passion to be a culinary professional?
Aarum: I just started to cook on this level over the last two years; once my career in TV Production in Los Angeles hit a wall. After eight years of working in the reality TV business work started to become harder to find and I wasn’t happy making TV anymore, so I would come home and cook and post on my Instagram page and my friends would say you need to do something with this food and that’s when @LesBInTheKitchen was born. The page has been a blessing for me while I start my life over here in Seattle. To be able to have an outlet when your life is upside down is something I’m thankful for. It’s more than food for me it’s a place of zen and chill.

First Lady Truth: Obviously you do all of the cooking in your house hold, is there a dish that you would want someone else to cook for you?
Aarum: Hmmm that’s a great question. I would have to say most likely fried chicken or a steak.unnamed

First Lady Truth: Was there ever a time when you wanted to step away from this industry? If so why? What caused you to stay?
Aarum: Again, this is just a hobby for me I don’t cook for a living and I’ve been asked why don’t I go cook in a kitchen and switch fields all together. That’s not for me at this time, I enjoy the freedom of cooking when I feel like it but I will start to work with some chefs and do some pop-ups later this year.

First Lady Truth: What is your favorite celebrity cookbook? Is there a culinary expert that you desire to work with? Aarum: Anthony Bourdain is hands down my favorite chef to watch.His reckless passion is what I’m into. Would love to create some food with him or have him produce a TV show for me. I want to be the lesbian Anthony Bourdain.

First Lady Truth: Is there a dish that you consider orgasmic? What do you prepare when you are trying to win a woman over?
Aarum: This question is funny to me. I never cook for women on the first date or even the first few dates, it’s just so easy; they can see that coming a mile away. Plus I only started to cook on this level about a year ago. If I had to woo a special lady I guess I would go with whatever she likes, even it’s seafood which I’m deathly allergic to but have made for ex girlfriends and if I do this means I really like you because I can’t even smell it without getting a little sick. Now who I would love to cook for and almost die for is Kerry Washington or Jasika Nicole from the FOX TV show “Fringe”, yes these two women I would gladly get rushed to the ER for.

First Lady Truth: Why LesBInTheKitchen? What does your sexual preference have to do with your craft? Do you think that it is important that you represent the homosexual community?
Aarum: Well LesBInTheKitchen was born because of my best friend and business partner Devon Augustine. When we created the page we needed a name and after a few rounds, she said I got it ; “LesBInTheKitchen” it’s a play on words Let’s all be in the kitchen together and also I’m a Lesbian. I mean I’m homosexual and proud of it! Its important that I represent my truth and that truth is I’m an African American Lesbian Woman. My sexual preference has nothing to do with my passion for cooking, people love the food and the page because I’m open about my life and I crack a lot of jokes. I think it helps that I’m good looking and men and women both like me “LOL” but they come for the food and jokes for sure!

First Lady Truth: Has your sexuality ever interfered in your success in this industry?
Aarum: I would say being a smart and intelligent woman of color has interfered with my success in my career and again food is not the industry I work in. The “Black-Tax”- is real for us. We have to work twice as hard with zero results. I’ve had CEO’s tell me time and time again how smart I am and one day they will be working for me but yet I’ve never made over 40k in 10 plus years of being a working professional. I’m just going to put everything I have into my books and brand that’s my only focus now.

First Lady Truth: What other endeavors have you taken a dip in?
Aarum: I worked in TV Production for close to ten years outside of that this is my next endeavor writing cookbooks and getting the name out there. Working towards a cooking show of my own and that thought is very exciting and has me focused, also I will be putting out two cookbooks a year. I’m self-publishing and doing 90% of the work myself and it’s a lot to learn in this world. Putting out books is not the easier thing to do but it’s been such a great journey and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

First Lady Truth: What would you like to say to the ladies, your fans and your supporters?
Aarum: I don’t have fans “LOL”, I like to say it’s just friends I haven’t met just yet. To the ladies hello & hi and to the supporters thanks for rocking with me and growing with me on this crazy journey, stay locked in it’s going to get even BETTER! Everyone can follow me on Instagram @LesBInTheKitchen and on Twitter @LBITK you can buy the book at

Grab yourself a glass of wine or whiskey and just enjoy the kitchen!

Caprese Fried Salad with Basil and Sage

1 tsp Sea Salt
10 to 20 Basil Leaves
1 Pound fresh mozzarella
1/4 inch thick slices 10 to 20 of the mozzarella
10 to 20 Sage Leaves (to top off dish)

Extra-virgin olive oil, for drizzling

1 cup of Panko bread Crumbs

3 vine-ripe tomatoes-1/4 inch thick slices


Step 1. Make an egg wash. Crack the two eggs into a pie pan and use a fork to beat them until they are combined. Dip the mozzarella slices in the egg wash, be sure to cover the mozzarella thoroughly with the egg wash so that the coating sticks.

Step 2. Coat with Panko or Tempura mix. Fry over medium-high heat. Place enough olive oil in a large skillet to cover the bottom of the pan, once the oil is up to temperature, fry the mozzarella until golden brown on both sides.

And Plate:

Layer alternating slices of tomatoes and mozzarella, adding a basil leaf between each fried mozzarella slice. Add Sage leaves to top of Salad. Drizzle the salad with extra-virgin olive oil and season with salt and pepper, to taste.


Honey Maple Bacon Wrapped Pork Tenderloin: Stuffed with Sage & Whole Garlic

1 head of garlic
2 tbsp. Olive Oil
1 tbsp. sage
1/2 tbsp. of cumin
12 fresh sage leaves
Hand full of chopped fresh thyme leaves
12 (1/4-inch thick) slices of maple bacon
2 pork tenderloins (about 1 to 1 1/2 lbs. each)
Cook time: 1hour & 1Omins I Temp: 375°f


Step 1. Preheat oven to 375°f

Step 2. Arrange tenderloins on work surface. Season each tenderloin with seasons of sage, and cumin.Cut three slits in the top of each tenderloin, stuff the slits with uncooked whole garlic bulbs and sage leaves.

Step 3. Wrap 6 strips of bacon around each tenderloin and tie bacon in place with kitchen twine.

Step 4. Heat olive oil in a medium skillet over medium-high heat. Sear the tenderloins until golden brown on all sides.

Step 5. Transfer seared tenderloins to a medium roasting pan; place in the oven and cook to medium doneness about 60 minutes to and 1hour & 10 minutes.

Step 6. Transfer tenderloins to cutting board and let stand 10 minutes. Remove twine before carving.

-Plate & Serve
Stuffed Pork

Living Out My Destiny: Truth Serum – Now What?

The time had come for me to take a moment to myself. I find it exceedingly impossible to evaluate who you are in an effort to change for the better; if you are entertaining others.

I clearly did not know who I was or what I wanted and that was detrimental to my existence.

Yes, I know that we live in a world filled with superficial pricks; which have one vision of what beauty truly is, however the fact that anyone’s opinion played a role in my life was not cool.

I set out to explore what I didn’t like about me. I needed to understand my flaws in order to highlight the attributes that truly made me a damn good woman. If I didn’t believe what I was saying my world would not exude what I was saying.

After many nights of self-reflection and tears. Lord knows, there were tears. I had finally accepted what made me beautiful! My SOUL!

This discovery opened a very important chapter in outlining my existence. The chapter that would truly delineate me as the woman I was preordained to be and the woman that I desired the world to know me as.
Honestly, the journey ahead was gruesome.

I found myself acknowledging the mistakes that I made.
The hardest part of all was learning to forgive. I had to forgive MYSELF for all of the injustices that I committed to myself. I had to forgive my heart for the role it played on my heartache. I had to simply FORGIVE!

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Until we meet again noodles,

Live , Love , Laugh
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